
I took lots of photos of projects that I am still working on - near completing - no where near done - and the such like. Above the Cable and Lace Cardigan from Harrisville, I now have the back and both sleeves done, and have started on one of the fronts, yay.

And I made it almost to the end of this sleeve, only to realise that I had not done the increases correctly and so, it is ripped back to the quasi-seed stitch cuff. Ah well.
I had all these great plans: finish cleaning up the loom and get a warp on it, go for a good long hike, knit that cardigan, and then, as life is want to do sometimes, it threw us a curve ball, pulled the rug out, and all the endless other aphorisms that we say to ourselves and each other when life takes a bad turn.

Our little foundling kitty who arrived on our doorstep almost 2 years ago, in the middle of a fall storm, passed away. He had been on his own for quite a few years, and it took a long long time for him to trust us, to count on us, and then to love us.
We named him Bebo (bee-boh) which he responded to immediately, and we had a wonderful couple of years with him in our lives. He had been recently diagnosed with a hyper-thyroid and possible kidney issues - our vet thought the thyroid condition had been going on for quite a while (she guessed that he was probably about 8 years old), and we just hoped that the medication would help him, and he'd be with us for a long time, but it weren't to be.
I will not list all the gorey details of this last week, and I hesitated to even write about this, but since it is just about all I can think about this weekend, and since this is the weekend that we often associate with the end of summer, the end of the long summer days, it seemed appropriate.

Bebo remained true to his wild self, and came in to eat and hang out and play, but rarely slept inside at night, I think he slept inside maybe 3 times in his whole life with us. He was afraid of loud noises, and the tv, and music had to be played low when he was inside, and no sudden movements from us, or he'd be under a chair, and streaking for the door. He was also afraid of cameras, I think he got a flash in his face, and that was that, if you pulled a camera out and he saw it, he'd be gone like a streak, and so we have far too few photos of him. We were talking last night about how we had made all those adjustments for him, so easily, and fit his quirky and feral-like personality traits into the rhythm of our own lives without really noticing that we had done it. Now tiptoeing down the hallway to the kitchen and taking off my flip flops so the sound of them hitting my feet as I walk won't freak him out seems, somehow silly.
One of his favorite things was to sleep on the driveway in the late afternoon/early evening after it had soaked up sun all day.

And his next favorite spot was in the garden near the lavendar.

He was our Buddy Boy, and loved sitting in a lap out on the porch, loved to spy on the goings on down on the street through the porch railings and then turn around to tell us all about what was happening, he loved to play with yarn, and his catnip mouse, and when he was very hungry he made a funny creaky, duck-like meow. He had a funny little black half moustache, and the sweetest white whiskers in his black forehead, and the softest fur, and the most delicate little pink feet.
Our home feels empty and quiet, and being out on the porch is the hardest thing, as we keep thinking he will come around the corner from sleeping in the tall grass, and jump up on a lap. We have spent much of the weekend wandering around wondering what to do, wondering when the empty feeling in our chests will recede, wondering if perhaps he really will come around the corner or up the driveway one more time, and feeling the tangible meaning of the saying "we are beside ourselves" because truely I feel like I am standing beside myself in disbelief that this precious boy will not be in our lives the way he has been for 2 years.

I have been thinking today about friends and family, and blogging friends that have lost animals and family members and people in their lives, and I so hope that when I have spoken or typed to them, that I have not been cavalier with their sad feelings, that I have said things that have made them smile just a little, or comforted them in some small way, I hope that I have understood and felt the depth of the sadness that just takes time and then more time to dissipate. We have not told a whole lot of friends and family because we got a couple of quick remarks from some of the few that we did tell that were along the lines of, well, you didn't have him that long, or you should go to the pound and get another cat really soon. Hmmm, good intentions that I wished I hadn't had to hear, and all the while I felt like screaming that I never wanted another cat in my whole life again, cuz another cat would never be Bebo. But time will pass, and the empty feeling will fill again, and hopefully, at the right time, another furry creature will wander into our lives again.
So this weekend of big plans and many things to be checked off the to-do list became a weekend of sitting still and noticing the breeze ruffling through the trees, and tears, and memories, and more sitting and staring, and then all the if I had only done more, or done this, maybe he'd still be here. It was a weekend to stop and notice the things in my life that I love, and the things that I simultaneously take for granted; the things that are beautiful and tangible and the people that are beautiful and tangible; the rolling rhythm of a life and all the things that come and go and make that life complete, full and rounded as well as slightly scarred and sometimes wobbly.